Therapy for Gay Men
Define Happiness on Your Own Terms
A Shared Narrative
As a gay therapist, I understand our individual experiences are as varied and unique as everyone else's, and yet, at the same time, there is a common story that unites us. Most of us realize we are different at a very early age. Sadly, this realization compels many of us to protect ourselves from rejection and homophobia by hiding an essential part of our identity from our families, the world, and sometimes even ourselves.
The Damaging Impact of "The Closet"
Unfortunately, staying hidden has serious negative consequences for our mental health even as it protects of us from rejection and physical harm. "The Closet" can cause gay men to develop deep-rooted insecurities and fears, which can lead some to struggles with social isolation, low self-esteem, anxiety and depression. Others may seek acceptance and validation through self-defeating or even destructive ways. Regardless of how accepting and supportive our families and friends are once we decide to come out, very few of us make it out completely unscathed.
The Struggle to Connect
Like many gay men, you may have moved to the Bay Area hoping to build a family of friends and find a safe haven free from bigotry and discrimination only to find yourself continuing to long for love and acceptance. The same insecurities we develop when we hide ourselves as children may make it difficult to develop deep and meaningful relationships as adults.
Unfortunately, we're also living in an era when the uncertainty and turmoil of the social and political climate can amplify our sense of isolation and negative feelings, making it even more challenging to build authentic relationships. While social media and dating apps provide easy and efficient ways to stay connected and meet new people, they may not provide the type of intimacy you desire.
Heal. Grow. Evolve.
If you find yourself feeling disconnected from your community even though you're surrounded by other gay men, or if you find yourself seeking validation in self-defeating ways, I can help. I will provide an affirming space so you heal from the damaging effects of homophobia and self-doubt and help you develop more positive ways of thinking about yourself and your community. In doing so, you will be better equipped to build the authentic genuine relationships you want.